Words to create abundance

We lie every day and we don’t like to admit it. But, if we are honest with ourselves, it is easy to see that we tell small and big lies every day. These are even part of the social compact that not only promotes them, but also accepts them, to the point where we are all unconscious accomplices of the sea of lies that surrounds us.

We learn to lie as children as a strategy to avoid the present, to avoid facing uncomfortable emotions or to justify our faults or petty interests. It is a useful and effective short-term survival strategy.

In the long run, however, lying has consequences. We all know the most obvious ones, such as the loss of trust that we generate in our relationships. Lying is an act of denial of reality. As such, one of its effects is to close the doors to abundance.

There are many other consequences that come with lying. One of these is the loss of our sense of authenticity. That is, because beyond lying being part of the social compact or strategy that gets me out of trouble, it is an act of self-sabotage. Lies eat away at us from the inside out, because they take us away from our authenticity one lie at a time.

We are mistaken in believing that lying is just an attempt to deceive others; it is actually an act of profound self-deception. As yoga practitioners, we strive every day to live authentically. That is, we want to stop pretending to be what we are not. We want to encourage our virtues. We want to embrace our weaknesses, rather than deny or suppress them. Being authentic is knowing how to accept reality today, as it is, rather than living in unreal worlds of past regrets or future fantasies.

Yoga teaches us that our words transform us, they have the power to create our reality and give us an inner experience of abundance. Our entire inner world has been woven with words, first with the mother’s and then with our own. Thus, our words define what it feels like to be me in my own experience.

If our mother, for example, told us we were unlovable when we were children, we will carry that deep pain of not feeling worthy of love all our lives, until we do the deep work of learning to integrate it into our being. Words and communication pave the way for this work.

The power of words over our experience is equally effective when used to communicate with others. Authentic words project strength, confidence, clarity and awareness and have the power to create mutuality, unity and multiply forces.

As we mature as beings of light, we begin to realize that it is not necessary to lie, because we always have the option of speaking with words of compassion, empathy, forgiveness and assertiveness when we dialogue, when we express our deepest desires and, if necessary, when we confront. These are the words that open the doors to abundance.

Accomplished yogis project their words from the heart, with a skill that disarms and penetrates. Their words emanate from the soul, that part of the being that does not need to lie because it does not belong to time and space.

Being authentic is knowing how to accept reality today, as it is, instead of living in unreal worlds of regrets of the past or fantasies of the future.

This is the art of conscious communication. Achieving it requires us to unite and integrate the known and unknown facets of our being to allow our communication to be brave, clear and kind. Only then will it be authentic… and we will take a step towards draining the sea of lies that surrounds us.